Wedding Wednesdays: First Looks

Wedding Wednesdays: First Looks

February 24, 2016 /


Alright brides and grooms, time for some real talk: The First Look.  I want to preface this post by saying whatever you decide to do on your wedding day, that’s great!  Honestly, there is no right or wrong way to do your day (but there are ways to make it even better!).  I want to share some pros about The First Look by using our wedding day as an example.

For some background, we decided very early on that we would see each other beforehand.  There wasn’t a main reason, but timing had to do with some of it.  We got married at 4pm and saw each other at 2pm.  Our reception started at 5:30pm and we did take family formals and bridal party pics afterwards but we didn’t want to spend a lot of time on those.  And the biggest reason we had a First Look… we just wanted to!

Here are some First Look pros:

  1.  Nerves.  On our wedding day, I was never negatively nervous.  I was just so. darn. excited. (My girls and photographer, Henry, can attest to that.  I was practically bouncing off the walls)  So seeing Lysander beforehand greatly calmed me down.  The second I saw him, I felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me.  This also made me more relaxed for the ceremony.  He got to see me first, not the guests. Oh my gosh, look at him. So handsome!


2. Alone Time.  It was the only time we had alone all day.  Of course our photographer was there but honestly, I don’t remember Henry at all.  I still get a huge rush of emotion from seeing these pictures.  I can feel the excitement, nervousness, happiness and relief all at once.  We got to share our own private first look without anyone else watching.


3.   No Rush. We got to take great portraits without feeling like we were holding up the reception or making anyone feel left out.  We had about 30 minutes together then the rest of the bridal party joined us for a few quick pics.  Then we moseyed on over to the church and still had time to spare.



4.  You get great pictures you wouldn’t otherwise! You get to see each other before anyone else does.  You can check each other out without having to try and listen to your officiant, or concentrating on not tripping down the aisle or bawling your eyes out (which we still did, by the way).




(I mean, come on… check him out, checking me out!)

5.  It takes nothing away from seeing your bride walk down the aisle.  Truly. Honestly.  I tell my couples that they are two entirely separate experiences.  You will still be emotional when you make that walk, and your groom will still be overcome.  Just check out this next pic…0895

For those brides and grooms who did have a First Look, chime in! Wasn’t it just the coolest?  It’s been almost 7 years and I still think it was one of the best parts of the day.


All photos by the insanely talented Henry Chen.

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