Forever and Ever, Amen
All day, I’ve been doing the same thing. “At this time 2 years ago, I was getting my hair done.” “At this time 2 years ago, I was getting my dress on.” Right now as I’m writing this… 2 years ago, I was in the limo going to the library to have our first look. It was at 2pm. The wedding was at 4. The reception at 6. If you see me today, forgive me. I’ll most likely be looking at the time and thinking, “At this time 2 years ago…” I can’t help it. If you were me on that day you would be doing the same thing. It was the best day of my life so far. We have wedding pictures up in the house and I smile every time I look at them.
But as anyone who is married will tell you, it’s not all about the wedding. It’s about the day in, day out challenges and high points of marriage. It’s about the compromise, sharing, discussing and planning. It’s thinking about your futures. Not just one of your futures but the course that your lives will take together. It’s that person that will always listen to you when you come home with great stories. It’s the adventures you’ll have together, whether that adventure is a trip to the in-laws or down the street to Target.
This past year has been an adventure. When we kicked off 2010 we said, “This year the theme is ADVENTURE.” We thought that meant we would be moving to somewhere far away. It could have been Washington, it could have been somewhere abroad. But we were bound and determined to get out of here and try some place new. Any place would do.
But isn’t it funny how life works out? We wanted an adventure and we got one. Little did we know that adventure would mean “challenge”. We tried new things this year. We decided to bloom where we were planted and make things happen. Our biggest adventure was trying to work together. Not just on our personal life but actually WORK together. As in a job. The children’s choir has been something that we get to share and plan together. I can’t thank Julie enough for not letting us say no. Because we were determined to say yes.
We both also got new jobs this year. Jobs that we may not have thought about ever having but suit us, just the same. Jobs that allow for us to do the things we really want. Jobs that let us have free time to enjoy our marriage and hobbies.
Speaking of hobbies, the combined income and free time have allowed us to grow and really enjoy what we do. Me with photography and him with carpentry. Things that, two years ago, we would have never even given a second thought. Sure, I always loved taking pictures and he always loved working with tools… but we didn’t think that it would grow the way it has. He supports me fully with photography and I get to enjoy the fruits of his carpentry labors. We are two separate people who have interests that differ from our partner. It’s incredibly healthy and satisfying.
(p.s. I have no idea what I’m doing in that picture above)
We’re getting to know each other better. I don’t feel like I have to be super wife all the time. He does chores when he has the time. We both have mellowed out a bit. Alright, who am I kidding? I’VE mellowed out a bit. And by a bit, I mean a lot. A LOT a lot. But I still have some work to do. Don’t we all?
But the important thing is even though we both have our own separate things, we still have each other. We have each other, we have our families, we have our friends. Friends who lift us up and see us every week. Family who we may not see often but still check in with frequently. Who keep us on track and love us no matter what.
I’m proud of who we are. The united front we show the world. That we’re together, we’re married. We love each other so much that we’ve promised to forsake all others, faithfully keep to ourselves alone, so long as we both shall live. And by forsake all others, I mean… other relationships. Not forsake our friends and family, no sir! I can’t wait for the coming years. To find a house, build a family, go on trips together.
As in the lyrics by Randy Travis, “If you wonder how long I’ll be faithful, I’ll be happy to tell you again. I’m gonna love you, forever and ever. Forever and ever, amen.”